Point of view.

This is an instinctive post that I am writing today. It just came to my mind when I was watching a movie while I was having dinner with my family this night.

It’s midnight here in India now and I am writing this post, maybe this is why people who know me well call me as nocturnal these days! πŸ˜€.

Coming back to what I was saying. Situation in the movie was something like this.

A marriage proposal breakup took place because the guy [who is self-centered, only cares about his happiness and he just wants to win and live his life just the way he wants to, he was totally against the word compromise and believed that two people in marriage can be happy only when they are exactly the same] on the other side was this girl [who was exactly opposite of how he was, she always cared about others around her, who believed that she would be happy when everyone along with her is happy and the one who believed if two people in marriage needs to be happy it is not necessary that they should be the same inΒ  everything].

With this background, it so happened that the guy felt, the girl was making lot of compromises to make herself fit into his lifestyle, his likes & dislikes. She had to leave her dance for him as she was learning it from past 20 years and enjoyed doing it. Little did he know that the girl was doing all this for him only because she clearly knew and saw that her world and priorities with the marriage would be just him and she was doing all that with her wish and was happy doing it.

After all that took place, girl was shattered to pieces when she knew that the guy whom she had started to love and felt that he is the perfect guy for her had left her completely broken with his point of view.

If you try to understand something from this, this just wasn’t the part of only the movie scene I narrated above. It’s almost the same with you, me and everyone around us these days. Rarely, you try to understand what is the point of view of other person in front of you. Based on whatever the situation you are in, you almost tend to build the probable possibilities, foresee things based on your assumptions and give your verdict to the person standing in front of you and just walk away.

If it does happen like this, for sure you will lose the person who was in front you while you passed the verdict because you never gave him/her any chance of understanding his/her point of view.

Well, because of this I see that most of us loosing out on hard-earned relationships be it friends, family, relatives or whoever it is. Only when you express your point of view & allow the one in front of you to express his point of view. Things get clear. Misunderstanding never occur. Every relationship will be a wonderful place to say without any hatred, misunderstandings and heart-aches.

And yes, later part of the movie the girl somehow made him realize he never gave her a chance to express her point of view and when he got to know what the girl’s point of view was about what he had thought about the compromises she was making for him and why she was doing all that for him. ItΒ was a happy ending to movie at the end.

Live your life. Express your point of view. Allow others to express it too and see how life changes in the best possible ways.

Honest opinion. Feel free to express your opinion about this. Let me know if I have missed out on anything. I will surely be more than happy to look into it.

Happy Reading πŸ™‚

47 thoughts on “Point of view.

  1. Interesting outlook–it is so important that we not only value another’s point of view, but that we provide that nurturing platform for them to feel comfortable voicing it. Well done! And thank you for your support for my scholarship vote in my last article!

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    1. Your asking about its name? If yes.. then I am sorry I don’t remember it.. I happened to see that movie while having my dinner with family and honestly I am not that movie lover.. so I didn’t bother much to check out which movie it was.. 😁

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  2. Great Post,Richard! i totally agree with your practical and rational views. Unfortunately, most of the people have over expectations in relationships and they are not willing to compromise.
    I have written a post-” say good bye to Divorce and stop jumping from one fry pan to another”
    You can read this post and have me your comments!

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      1. Thank you so much for your kind words Ravi! ☺️ Yes.. I am a little stuck with ad hoc personal works.. πŸ™ˆ I’ll wrote soon and keep you posted once I write one soon πŸ˜‡πŸ’›

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  3. I always try to listen to others point of views. However, I express a verdict recently, and yes I lost the person who was in front of me. But I was kind of obliged to do so because the other person never tried to explain his point of view to me. So I made my own verdict and I tried to go ahead with my own life. Not saying I’ve succeeded so far, but I couldn’t stand a relationship with someone who was not willing to spontaneously share his point of view. However, I feel so guilty because I know that verdicts are just the worst to receive. So I would like to apology, but I’m not sure thoe. What do you think?

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    1. Well the point is.. when you say the other person never tried to explain his point of view.. on first hand.. did you give any chance for the other person to express his/her point of view? If yes, and still they didn’t express then think what is more important to you .. if by you apologize to the person and give a chance to express their point of view and by doing that.. it helps you resolve everything then i would suggest that you better do it.. 😊 But at the end your the better person to decide as you know the situations much better than I know.. Hope this was of some help to you.. πŸ˜‡

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  4. I think it’s important to try and understand others point of view and, with that, reach a compromise. However, if they consistently show that they cannot compromise and demonstrate consideration, then to me it’s over. Life is too short to be with someone who doesn’t respect you nor makes a genuine effort for you.

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    1. Undoubtedly.. true Sophia. There comes a time when you feel so.. even then you give a chance to see if the person will respond to it.. but even then you don’t get it back..Or they are not willing to compromise for a healthy relationship then you definitely have to move on.. and get going coz yes life is too short.. well said. πŸ˜‡

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  5. I was raised to hear out even the most outrageous points of view and to examine them, using the values my parents instilled in us, before making any decision on them. There are people today, at the edges of my life, who have made outrageous or archaic statements, and who hold to them, even though they know that there are more complete points of view out there. Much of what we say we believe is based on emotion.

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