Marriage – Decision Phase.

Hey guys, I apologize for not writing anything for last few days. Was stuck with loads of work in and out. Anyways, hope you all still there to read and support my writings ๐Ÿ™‚

Well, today’s post will be about the phase we go through right before marriage. As most of my friends and me are in a phase of our life, where it is very certain to get notified and be an eligible bachelor to get married. It’s quiet natural to be in the confused state of mind. As to who really is the perfect match for you right?

I hear most of my friends who say out loud that they are getting irritated with this word marriage already. Any thoughts on why this might be happening to them?

As per my understanding, I feel marriage is a very crucial phase in our life. It is such a phase which can either make or break your life. So it very important for us to be careful and choose our partner for life [our better half] very wisely.

And, when we will be in a mindset to take a call on this in a more practical way.. most of the times because of peer pressure from people around you, your relatives, family members, friends, colleagues you end up getting into a state of mind where you get a thought.

God, why do I even have to marry someone. I am doing well all by my own, why can’t everyone just leave me alone.

When you get such thought my friend, I would want you to just seclude yourself from the rest of the world. Stay calm. Sit in a place where it’s only you and no one else to disturb you at-least for sometime. Think over what is the right thing for you to do now?ย What is it that is exactly bothering you?

Is it that any pressure your feeling because of your relatives & family?

Is it that your still not ready to get married?

Is it that you’re not getting the right partner for your life?ย 

Think over it calmly, breakdown your thoughts, analyse it. When you feel your helpless you ain’t really able to figure out what to do I humbly request you to bow down before god almighty and seek his guidance. I am sure he will not let you down. In fact, what I honestly suggest everyone is please keep god in first place no matter what decisions your making in your life. Specially in decisions like marriage, it is really very important.

If you feel that you’re going through a lot of peer pressure – Just let the people who matter to you in your family, relatives or whoever it may be to let them know in what state of mind you are and what is actually bothering you. I am sure, if they care for you they will understand your point of view.

If you feel that you’re still not ready for marriage – Please make it clear to your family members about it at the same time give them a clear understanding why you feel so and by when you think you can be okay to get along with it.

If your feeling thatย you’re not getting the right partner – This is the most trickiest part, there can’t be a generic way of dealing with it. But, if it would be me I would pray to god and ask him to do his will for me, guide me to a person who is the right one for me. I am sure he will lead me to the right one! ๐Ÿ™‚

I am not sure, if this was of some help for you. If it was then please drop your comments and feedback’s, would love to read them ๐Ÿ™‚

Honest thoughts. Happy Reading ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

Be Strong!

Well. In this post I would like to talk about all that I think, which makes one Be Strong!

It is something, that I have been doing these days. This is what life has taught me in a very harsh way though! But, I am thankful of it. It has made me realize the very fact that how strong I am!

Yes, most of us do come across such instances where in there is simply no other go for you. Than to Be Strong and Move On!

“You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice” – Bob Marley

Many adversities or problems or situations does occur in our life. It may be anything (varies from person to person). So when it occurs, does it mean its the end of your life? You can never overcome it? It’s highly impossible for you to get back to normal once again?

What do you do in such situations??

Sit back and keep worrying about it?  – This will not solve the problem. Instead, it would worsen the problem more! 

Instead, get back on your toes! Be Strong! say to yourself these words (sounds silly, but really works! it did for me at least) “You cannot breakdown! You need to get strong and get going. Start fresh again. There is nothing that can be break you down!” Definitely, saying these to yourself will surely help you to overcome the problem and Move On!

Thinking to quit your life for the problem that has occurred?  – This would be a foolish thing to do! Just don’t waste it by being coward and quit things off!

Instead, Life is just once! Be Strong! Try to embrace it. Be hopeful. Start reading some motivational quotes, books, you will not only start reading it but will undoubtedly start loving it. This will for sure make you feel better and will help you overcome your problems and Move On!

Questioning yourself as to why did this happen to me only? – Well, the answer to this question is still unknown to many. Only if you discover an answer to this the problem wont get solved!

Instead, of asking this question. You can definitely get back on it. Be Strong! and say “Whatever has happened was bound to happen and so it did. Now, I need to work on it to make it better and I will surely do it!” Find it by your own, how talking to yourself and believing in yourself  will help you come out of any adversity and Be Strong and Move on! Haha Oh

Conclusion: “Have I not commanded you Be Strong! and Courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discourages, for the Lord your God is with you always!” – Joshua 1:9

And always! don’t forget to believe in yourself. Because true strength of an individual is only known and nurtured by one’s own self and not by anyone else!

Once, you have mastered to value yourself and believing in yourself! No doubt. You become strong by your own! You will not even get to know about it. Things around you will start to change. Problems revolving around you will start disappearing. Life will get much better and smoother.

Which of the above questions are more frequently ?

Thoughts on Be Strong! was it useful to you?

Disclaimer: The above written article are truly based on my own experience. (Talking to yourself and saying positive things to yourself. May sound silly, but it does work wonders if done with sheer positive and self belief. Well, it did work for me though! ๐Ÿ™‚ )